Should Guys Have Long Hair??
By diogenes
Lots of very fit blokes like long hair
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Can Long Hair be a Man's Crowning Glory. Too?
No! You immediately say; that gay bullshit is for nancies and girls.
Or Yes! Blokes should do what they want and have long hair or short hair as the whimsy takes them.
Well, that got us exactly nowhere.
As most gays do not have long hair, the first comment won’t stand up to even cursory scrutiny. I don’t know why, really, you’d think the distaff side of a gay relationship would like to look a bit girly, but apparently not….if I had the desire for a gay or transvestite partner, she/he would look 100% female, thank you.
So is the answer to question two a bit nearer the truth and guys should have the hair length they desire and whose business is it anyway?
Well, long hair isn’t fashionable in 2012? True. Most blokes in Britain look as if they have just escaped a prisoner of war camp with the buzz-or-less clips also called a goat cut.
It’s curious how this non-style has caught on, because so many look just awful: little pin heads, scruffy, spotty scalps and a shadowy widow’s peak. And, no, you don’t look ‘hard at all!
Is this just due to the economy? I know this is why I have clipped my own hair for a decade.
So it was time for a change and the criticism has begun almost before the poor follicles have begun to take on the responsibility of the new growth.
I looked online to see what was on offer about blokes and long hair. Lots of stuff really; several old hubbers are there giving advice. One has a brother who has long hair like hers’ (both beautifully adorned actually). She was complaining: jealous maybe. I am at the four-inch stage at the moment….hair! Oh, you are such wags! (I’m developing a gay writing style in case I list that way as it grows).
Hair grows at approximately ½ inch (about 1 ½ cms) per month, so to get it a reasonable length means a year or more…some time Spring 2013. You girls know all this, but it’s surprising how many myths abound; many perpetrated by the missies.
For example: (1) Cutting or shaving your hair makes it grow faster or thicker. It doesn’t: the follicles are buried into the skin and don’t know or care if their charge of a single strand is being pruned or left to grow.
(2) Massaging the scalp and rubbing emollients into the hair helps growth. Nope, not that either. (3) Snipping off the split ends will help growth. Sorry. The hair will grow the same and all hair falls out sooner or later anyway and is replaced by its neighbors.
You can damage hair by too frequent washing with harsh shampoos; too much brushing while wet and using dyes and perms.
The worst thing for the hair is a poor diet and smoking which deprives the hair of blood and eventually kills it.
It’s best to just leave it to grown and trust to the lord!
Curly hair will grow just like straight hair, but will be a tad harder to control and style when long. Yet the wavy variety looks better hanging loose perhaps, whereas straight lends itself to a pony tail.
Which brings me to my - and others - opinion on whether men should have long hair at all.
We believe that, yes, they should, but not too long. Ladies can get away with hair that covers them all the way to the magic valley, but men are overpowered by hair this long. But hair to past the shoulders that can easily be put in a band or curled under a hat, or just left long and sexy, is fine.
Not only is competing with the longest hair on women wrong, it takes just too much looking after. Even shoulder length will require preplanning in damp, cold climes (Britain!) to give the owner time to get it dry after washing (twice per week is ideal).
Men who ignore this and grow it all the way down their backs must get tired of being accosted in the more unsavory bars by panting males who grab them by the shoulder (or worse) and gasp into their non shell-like ears of undying love - or stay hard erections. I’ve done it: and to gaze into the snarling face of the buffed cowboy who owns the locks, shaking a scarred fist under your nose, having been put out considerable by a prod in the nether regions by an object that was not your gun, can ruin your night.
I have noticed already how much willpower and patience you will need to throw off the accustomed “A number two clip please,” as you gaze into your mirror in the morning to be greeted with what looks like a rat looking out of a heron’s nest.
Hair is really uninspiring as it grows out of a clip. It won’t stay down or up - though it enjoys sideways - and the best place for it is under a hat or a bandana.
This is the time of the struggle between returning to the old trouble-free and inexpensive clip (“Why the s--t am I doing this!). You will be treated to the opinions of your mates and partners, too. ’You’re too old, you twit.” “Gee, thanks, I love you, too!”
\but, strangely, most of the criticism I have received in the early stages has been favorable. “You look younger!” Oh, pleeze, say that again!” I though this was a bit strange, actually, and that short hair made you look younger, but not always.
From an ex. “Huh, at least your face looks thinner!” She was always the expert at the damming by faint praise.
I have picked the clippers up daily! There is nothing I would like to do more than shear the itchy, whitey-grey locks, complete with built in dandruff and perhaps some of the smaller members of the arachnid family.
But so far I have held off as it oh so slowly increases.
Why does this 72-year-old curmudgeon bother? Maybe I can't stand myself as I am!
If I make it, you will see Diogenes as he surely was meant to be ..patience, dear friends.
Comments
Hi Bob, Coming from the sixties and seventies..I love long hair..If it is clean and even pulled back in a pony tail..My daughters laugh..they think I am lost in time..My brother who always had his hair short due to the military grew his long and works a high profile job on a miltary installation. He wears it in a pony tail with a close shaven beard. He looks great! I find it very very cool!..lol
Thanks Bob..
Sunni
I can't generalize about this; some guys look good with long hair and others don't. Same with girls. For example, in my opinion, two beautiful people from Hollywood who don't look good in long hair are Halle Berry and Leonardo De Caprio. Both gorgeous, but the long hair look just doesn't flatter them. On the other hand, some guys and most gals look good with long hair. So I say, check in the mirror or look at pictures of both styles and pick the best look. Some guys look smoking hot in long hair.
One of my pet hates is guys with long hair, it just looks so un-masculine. I love beards and hairy chests and men with short hair......and yes I think bald men are particularly attractive:-)
Bell
My husband had long hair when I met him. From the back, my Mum said that it was difficult to tell us apart!
My younger son used to have long hair, but has now cut it short. However, my elder son still has his long locks.
They both had lovely long curly hair when they were little ~ one chestnut and one blond. I hated to cut it.
So yes, I like long hair on men ~ and on women, too ~ though, of course, it does depend on the individual.
Hi Sophia: No, what was Highlander? I like long hair on women...men have to be a bit brave
Bob
Hello Sunnie
DiCaprio was hard wired in our minds with Titanic maybe. Ilike Brad with long hair, but it wouldn't suit Willis. Perhaps Berry's is too artificial?
Bob
Sorry Sunnie, I have got mixed up with who said what...
Hi Silva: Yeah...I don't think it will improve yours truly much...we get bored with the same old things. Please see my comment to Sunnie above re Di Caprio, etc
Bob
Bell. Some girl who liked bald men said it was because they were phallic!? (dickhead!)
At least you like all the other underbrush
Bob
can't wait to see the new picture when your hair has had time to do its thing.
Hiya Trish. With your looks, you could have a green clip and get away with it.
It's true some people just look bad with long hair, maybe guys with ferrety little heads? I like long hair on all girls, although Audrey Hepburn and Caron could look exquisite bald
Bob
Hi Cathylynne: I will send you a private photo...full length, nude, Diogenes with stunning locks!
Bob
(I heard that!)
the highlander - a tv series with adrienne paul (who looks dashing in long hair) playing an immortal from the scottish highlands who must defeat other immortals by sword and is electrified with the defeated's spirit.
I just can't picture Jesus in a buzz cut.
I am all for anyone having whatever hair style they want. It's time we quit seeking anyone else's opinions.
Thanks Cathylynne, I will now avoid that!
Will. Trust you to get to the root of the question. Jesus is the ultimate long-hair
Lisa: You are so right, we just visit our insecurities on others; maybe we should also learn to keep our manipulative opinions to ourselves, too
Bob
I figure it's whatever floats your boat as long as it's clean. Some men look great with longer hair - others not so much. What I despise is dreadlocks.
I quite like dreadlocks on pretty young girls. Except I often wonder what is festering underneath when they stay that way for weeks!
Yes: dirty long hair is awful, especially if its grey or white
Bob
Dearest Bob, I think if any man can get away with long hair you probably could!
Some men look wonderful with longish hair - remember David Ginola in his heyday - and some look wonderful with a shaven head - look at the beautiful Zinedine Zindane - he looks much more handsome without hair. (Don't know why I should choose footballers to illustrate this!)
To me Brad Pitt as Achilles just looks a complete jessie - but that is the fault of the makeup dept. - certainly not the wonderful Mr Pitt.
Which all goes to show it's a matter of personal preference and the style and looks of the male long hair wearer. Sadly many of them are so unkempt that they just look like explosions in a horse hair mattress factory!
Strictly Dating. Thank you! Thinking of Cousin It perhaps?
Bob x
Yeah, Angie: If you have the dynamic looks of a Zindane it doesn't matter if your hair is long or short.
Bob
This, Mr Will, is where people need to actually Read their Scriptures. 1Corinthians 11:14 " Does not nature itself teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a dishonor to him." The men of Israel had a Full head of hair, but it is Very Unlikely Jesus had long hair. Gee, those artists could be Wrong? I suspect so. :0) Nice hub. I like short hair on guys. And mullets, well, let's not even go there!
the bible also says, "man looks on the outward appearance, but god looks on the heart." in other words, god worries about more important things thanhow you wear your hair. I samuel 16:7
Bobbi! Shame on you! A buzz cut Saviour? Who would have taken him seriously.
I didn't know mulletts had hair??
Bob
Go throw psalms at one another on YOUR articles...jeez!
Bob xx
Just adding my input....
I have no problem with guys with long hair, but with any hairstyle for male/female I think it should go with your face.
For example my boyfriend used to have long hair and I hope he never grows it long again, since he has a long skinny face, he looks so much better with short hair than with long hair.
Great Hub!
After six years of growth I was thinking about getting a haircut, and then I saw this:
Ha! Loved this one, Bob! If my wife would allow me to put my picture on on HP you would see my curly pontail hanging a bit past my lower neck. Mainly because I just haven't been to get it cut in a few months.
I was a professional musician for a good part of my life--rock and roll-- so long hair was in then. And the hippie years--well, that's another story. Hell, who am I kidding--at 61 I'm still an old hippie! LOL!
Great hub and rated up, as usual!
Randy SSSSS
It's your hair and your head. Though Shakespeare said "There's many a man has more hair than wit', he hadn't met you, your wit shines through either way. Enjoyed the subject and of course you'll have all your followers waiting to see the new locks! Voted up.
Length of a man's hair doesn't really matter. If it looks good, do it. I might be a little uncomfortable if it were so long he could tie me up with it . . .
Earrings are a no-go. Tattoos don't cut it with me. If you shave your chest, let me know before you take your shirt off -- and then just don't.
Well Bob, here and I thought you were 50 something. Yeh, I really did.
Good hub. You are always entertaining.
Here is the thing that motivates some guys to having long hair, women love it! Since I enjoy sex, then having long hair is a decent trade off.
Guess what I don't care if folks think I'm girly man, cause I'm getting more than my share.
Here is another point which you shared on it saves on haircuts and you can always pull into a pony tail.
I personally do not like the Neo-Nazi Aryan Nation look, but it does seem to be the trend.
My son Randy has let his wavy locks grow to his shoulders. He is gorgeous with or without long hair, but I love his long hair and being a musician, it works for him. The ladies love it too. Quite an interesting hub. Leave it to diogenes to come up with an award-winning hub like this! Up and more.
I found your hub useful as I'm trying to grow my hair out too. Voted up and useful. :)
My hubby has long hair - it's always been shoulder length and it looks great like that. Lately, though, at the age of 52, he's started growing his hair even longer and I HATE it. It's thin on the top and now he scrapes it into a ponytail! It is a major turn-off for me but he likes it. Male menopause I guess!
To all who have replied lately to this quite silly hub, many thanks and it's still growing
Bob
Use to have long hair myself (dreadlocks) I cut them off just to refresh,I miss my long hair. Growing it back again-who cares what people think, I want my hair long and that is how i will have it-that is my thinking.
Alladream: Good for you.
Bob
Wonderful hub. God has long white hair, and a beard. God does as God pleases. Long hair, or short hair makes no difference to me. No A h*** in any bar room would dare F*** around with God. God Bless You, and everyone you cherish.
To one and all. Thanks for recent comments. I am still growing the mess and avoiding the mirror. It's about 5 inches now! Roll on 2013!
Bob
Hi Bob, get a haircut!!
Bell
I married a long hair in the 1980's. After we kept getting pulled over , he cut it. lol My dad used to tease Marc and ask him if he wanted some bows!
Wow, this is a hot topic!
Bell. My immediate response had to do with having carnal knowledge of one's mother!
Hi Rusti. Yeah, there are some disadvantages
Hi Sophia: Yeah...the future of mankind depends on it!
Bob
I hate long hair on men. I just think they look more manly without fussy long hair. A good "man's" haircut highlights his male features. I much prefer the classy tailored Clark Gable look, over the grungy modern look.
Hi Bob. Keep it longer that's my view. Everyone knows what is best for them. So one has to decide long or short. Simple really. LOL.
Graham.
Cheers Graham. Will do for time being
Bob
Thanks scarlet...One man's meat and all that
Bob
Back in the 70's, everyone (well almost everyone including men) have long hairs. I was one of them!
Yes, when I see old photos of those years, all the guys had hair covering their ears at least.
Bob
I will tell you all this - whenever I have short hair I don't have any luck with the ladies, well, not too much anyway....
But, if I have myself long hair I find the women just come flocking - for some reason they seem to just love playing with a man's hair if it's as long/longer than theirs!
Hey, what can I do? Gotta keep the ladies happy....
I occasionally get a geezer with the whole "you long haired faggot!" thing, but they usually back off when they see that I'm getting the same women that are turning them down....
Peace and love to all y'all!
VJ.
That's a cheering comment!
You would have thought they liked "dickheads," but it's the other way round. IT may be because women love a rebel and bad guy, long-hairs are more off the scale than shorties.
Bob
It's a matter of beliefs, of cultures, of likes, of biases,and others. A person feels what fits himself. And to decide for him is an imposition and a violation of his right to choose what's right for him. So whatever it is he feels, he thinks, he does, and it's a decision he himself makes.
Sophia Angelique 3 months ago
Bob - confession. I love guys with long hair! However, I don't like druggies, musicians, and 'that kind of long hair.' On the other hand, remember 'highlander?'
Um... Nice!